Play!

I don't know who needs to hear this...besides me...most days. But here is your reminder:

The importance of play cannot be understated when it comes to mental health. As children, many of us experience the privilege of having free time to spend either on our own or with friends to play. We are born intuitively gravitating toward play as a way to learn and survive. As we get older and the responsibilities and demands of life increase, it can be easy to lose sight of just how nurturing and useful play can be at any age. We may even forget how to do it. 

What is play? 

Play:

1) Allows you to feel connected with yourself and others

2) Is reasonably safe, even if some risks are present

3) Provides challenges and stimulation to a manageable degree that results in engagement, not overwhelm

4) Incorporates positive emotional experiences rooted in the the present moment

5) Is appropriate enough for your ability, age, skill, and development level

When we play, we are able to form new, useful connections in our brains and learn helpful skills without the need for defenses and coping strategies.

Sometimes playful activities can morph into harmful activities if we aren’t able to use our own personal discernment to adjust to our needs as we go along. For one person competition might be thrilling; but, for another it might seem emotionally dangerous or too upsetting to enjoy. Some play might involve a level of physical risk that is safe until a mistake is made and someone is injured. Remaining empowered to take care of our needs during play experiences is essential to incorporating play into our daily adult lives in a healthy way. We don’t have to avoid play to stay safe as adults. Play is not just a luxury for children to enjoy. It is simply a mindful practice that can be added into everyday activities, which might otherwise be a drag. 

But what about the 6 loads of laundry I have to do? Yes, you have to do six loads of laundry. But who do you want to do it with, and what would make it more fun for you? 

I like listening to educational books while I fold and throwing clothing at my spouse for them to put away in the dresser. This typically results in laughter and pleasant sensations of warmth and mild excitement if a clean garment is dropped on the floor. New information inspires me and keeps me engaged in the repetitive physical task at hand. I am actively learning how to enjoy daily tasks, and I am creating embodied memories of safety and connection as I take care of myself. This is just one example of how play can potentially work for us in our adult lives.

I post play prompts to my instagram @vent_counseling